The Theory of RelativiDee

Everything is Relative.

Period.














Ever hear something from a colleague, family member, or friend and think, "WHAT?? How did that even come out of your mouth??"

...Then you realize: 'Oh... That's THEIR perspective.'

But when the Colleague-Family-Friend person SAID the statement, they seemed SO sure of their statement; IT is the ultimate truth, and your view is wrong.

But wait, waitttttt, who decides which point of view is correct? Are any views or opinions correct? Even those seemingly INSANE people: Can we judge their statements or actions? Have you been through what they have in the last 24 hours cycle of hell? Probably not.

What about the drama queens (yours truly)?? What if their drama stems from experience that has come round and round again, and they are simply speaking from frustration of ALWAYS being the ones that have "been there, done that?"

Then there is normal: "Normal" things in life, the "Normal people" that just say, what I TEND TO THINK, are the dumbest, one-sided things:
#1 "The roads are fine." Says an office manager, on why the Salaried Employees who have laptops and can work from home can't have a "Snow Day." WHOS ROADS ARE FINE?? Ever lived border-lined Bourgeois-Ghetto? One block mansions, one block ghetto? They are called red-lined zones: And no services go there: Taxis, PD, and STL City Employed Snowplow Drivers. Bumfucks. WHY NOT?? All the 'County' Roads, where everyone ELSE in my company lives, are wonderfully cleared/covered with magic salt by their boring White-Male Snowplow drivers, who get paid via high-property tax dollars. Not me :(
It's ok, I'm not bitter

>:(

#2 "Everyone in St. Louis in the fine dining industry has worked there." I'm sorry, the word-vomit came up: "What? What do you mean? Who is everybody?" uhhhhhhh.....
No really, when people say these things, you kind of have to teach them a lesson from using words like "Every" "Never" "Always".... Bad. Confusing. Excessive, much?
"Maybe everyone knows each other in the small circle from your friends-of-past that worked at the OTHER place the owners opened, therefore having possibly 100 people in a network of friends-friends you may have gotten drunk with on a case of '2 Buck Chuck' at someone's house party. Yuck.

Please people. Stop saying things like this. You normaltons have no excuse like "insane" or "drama queen." And you know what? Please, throw this back in my face if I do it in front of you!! I don't want to be example #3....

Word up.

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I can't stop them

The tears... The tears they fall...

At some point in every one's life you feel how weak you truly are. You see yourself as a fragile human being, no matter how smart you are, how good you look, how successful you are within your firm.

Have you ever cried at work? I have. I just did. But it wasn't because of a client, or because of my role in this company, its because of the demon that is within this place that was put here to test me. I honestly believe that. Everyone is given tests and challenges throughout their lives to show them what they are made of, and to remind them who they are.

I have been fighting this demon for two years now. I have tried different ways of being nice to have a resolution, I have tried to be direct and assertive, I have tried to be gentle and hard, and I have finally chosen to say what I want to say. (See previous post: ...And the Wall Crumbles)

I want to say Fuck Off Demon. Go Test someone else now. I have learned my lesson, and you are not part of the solution.

Ah...

I am so conflicted. I have a job. I have a job in a bad economy. I have a job in a bad economy with benefites, fun co-workers, and a company car, gas card, and blackberry. Why I am do up and down on this one then?

I hear other people go to work, and be fine. I come to work fine, and am immediately brought down from the aura of "who did this wrong." It's not the industry, it's not the people as a whole per se,... what is it?

It's people playing against each other. It's the human nature to protect their own environment and territory, and use their hieracrchy against the rest. I'VE been here longer, but I'VE got a youthful exuberance, but I'VE got the knowledge.

Then sit the fuck down people and share. Don't tell me you don't have time. Put out your goddamn $2 ghetto pack of cigarettes and sit with me. Drive faster to work, there's time. Don't walk across the whole office to ask me what could have been intercomed, there's time.

Now realize something:

You're all thinking the same thing. That's right. It was actually just proven to me by my boss, Jesus. He enlgihtened me. Everyone actually has happy thoughts. Thoughts of positive teamwork, and a unified efficent enviromnent. I know that's what I think. What I WANT--want to see from the good people around me. We are great people. Everyone in their own way. But funny thing, Demon said they wanted all the good fuzzies of change and positive teamwork, and I say "HAH! Hah to you Boss Jesus. You've been lied to. That's a crock."

"Hey, Hey, Snap out of it..." says Boss Jesus,... "why are you looking at the floor??"

"Because that just killed me." I felt like I was so struck by the bad-vibe lightning, that I couldn't talk, I couldn't speak, I couldn't agknowledge.

So I shed a tear.

and another.

and another.

"Please excuse me Boss Jesus. I have to go to my desk now."

What are you supposed to do when you're faced with a cross roads. How do you solve it? Turn to friends? Turn to your lover? Turn to a faith?

You should really look in the mirror and ask yourself. As I preached with "Show Yourselves" earlier this week. I'm the real case here: I'm conflicted.

I've dried my tears for now. Now it's time to be honest with everyone. What am I going to do.

SHOW YOURSELVES!!

No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be true.
-Nathaniel Hawthorne


Why do we hide??

Simple question, no?

I have a few examples of self-deception within my sphere lately , and its starting to drive me gaga.

Example #1: women (and men) who do not realize their ability to CHOOSE. Are you happy or not? How many days a week are you happy in your current situation? (i.e. career, relationship, sex life, friendship) If your answer is not more than half, MAKE A PROGRESSIVE CHANGE. WAKE UP! Tis the century to do what the fuck you want! I made a VERY hard decision a few years back, that created a "The night is darkest before dawn" scenario, but I do HONESTLY think both parties involved are better off today because of that change!

Ex 1.5: There are times when people DO rectify example #1, and then hide in other parts of their lives. How is that? If you are balls to the wall in an area of your life, TRY, just TRY to apply those same principles to the other parts of your lives. THEY ALL REQUIRE THE SAME PRINCIPLES, REALLY.

Example #2: smart people doing dumb things. I just don't get our generation, (yes I'm bashing the 20-somethings-so myself included), we have EVERYTHING at our fingertips: Google, Instant Directions, Instant Messaging, Interfaced everything. So why the hell are we waiting? WHAT are we waiting FOR? And why the fuck do we do dumb things? We are at an advantage! Our generation has tools that should be making work easier and playtime more frequent. WORK SMARTER NOT HARDER. Or shall we say, follow your hearts, listen up, get out, and find the job you were meant for! It WILL not fall in your lap.

It seems as though our generation is made up of 30-yr-old retired millionaires that woke up with an idea that worked, or people living at home for NO apparent reason, just because. (Because mom still likes to fold your underwear and press your shirts.) BE ADULTS! Shit, our parents were owning property and starting their second chapter by now!

(..now wait. WAIT! Don't think I don't appreciate the more, lets say, European mentality of staying local, even at home, til you're almost 30, prepping for adulthood very thoroughly. But those lucky individuals are staying at home til they are done with their second degrees and have now paid half down on a home they just purchased.)

Luckily, I have some wonderful acquaintances that are happy mediums: strong work ethic is KEY.

Unfortunately, the people of topic here in Ex #2, have ALL THE POTENTIAL IN THE WORLD, and do not know how to use it. Something has silenced their thunder. Do me a favor people: Write down your strongest personality traits, and most advanced skills. If you do NOT get to, or choose to, use those EVERYDAY, move along. Move right on down the track...

#3 people that fuck with me. Yes, I said that. People that deceived me by "showing me" their second face, their second personality, the GUEST STAR!

I don't like guest stars. >:(

If you really are lazy SHOW ME. If you really need help in a serious part of your life ASK ME. No one can read minds. You will be farther in life if you just say what you're thinking....

...say what you're thinking without intent of harm. (need to clarify)

Above all: Be yourself, at all times. Then you will know who you can really trust, who REALLY loves you, what job you were REALLY meant for. The universe can have a small hand in your road in life, but it is your responsibility to take the hand when its out!!

Let's all shake hands.

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